The Language of Love and Respect: Cracking the Communication Code with Your Mate

by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs


“Each one of you also must love his wife…and wife must respect her husband.” Ephesians 5:33 (NIV)

Currently, one of the most studied questions in psychology is the role of gender in today’s world. The author of The Language of Love & Respect examines this question using the Bible, research and illustrations from life today.

The first chapter is a recap of Eggerichs’ previous book Love & Respect. Based on the verse above, he shows the need of women for love as well as the need of men for respect; however, this knowledge in itself may not right the wrongs produced by hard-wired differences between men and women.

The author says that the differences are not right or wrong, just different. To work together well, each must understand the others best way of expressing needs. For example, what he said and meant is not always what she hears.

The resulting chapters provide guidelines for using this knowledge to improve couples communication. The author and his wife, who give workshops addressing this subject, admit they still sometimes goof in their own communication especially when stressed. Of course, they have the skills to analyze what happened and turn the situation around. This book helps you obtain these skills too.

A practical guide, the book also gives bits of wisdom in the form of short quotes on many pages. This points out what is most important and provides reminders of what has been read. Good stuff!

Publisher: Thomas Nelson